There’s so much we attribute to people that aren’t inherently in the persons we experience. We impress these opinions, ideas, assumptions on to the representations of them that we hold and so much of our experience of the person is made of these things that if we were to strip people of all things we’ve placed in that person, they really wouldn’t be more than a ghost. They’d be weightless, insignificantly figured, and even someone we’d not consider as real because of their lack of fullness we expect from people with all of us and our thoughts, feelings of them pressed and packed into their image.

Everyone that floats by in our lives are just thin, weightless, faint figures until we tie the select few down with our mental strings and emotional draws to pin them with more weight to become more of a mass in our experiences of them. So when you have to let someone go you really need to cut these strings and draws or at the very least, let them fray with time. Then they lose this gravity we’ve placed into them and they’ll just float away like a ghost.

It’s this weight that separates the ones that figure more prominently in our lives from the more environmental figures, the minor characters. Sometimes, it maybe that some people spend more time on our consciousness screen and the ties are grown over time naturally to pin the person. Or it maybe that we build the relationship and invest ourselves into the other. We spend our time and effort trying to keep someone with weight in our minds because we want them so much to be figure in full. We add so much of all we consider about them, the impression we have them, details that are wholly from our minds and not from them to build this weight.

This kills the image.

So we have to choose to cut the ties and ropes. Let the figures float away.