Lazy

Feeling as if the soul has separated from the body due to too much thinking and analyzing which only brings the soul deeper into the black hole,trying endlessly to fill it up with meaningless self indulgence that works for a little while until realizing that it is only a few tricks up one’s sleeve,hoping that somehow the magical tricks turns into a miracle,which is impossible ... maybe consistency is the key,but what differs consistency and routine ? Routines makes us all see the future more clearly,because its all about endless repetition,now it is clear that certain repetition is boring,so where does consistency lies ? Is consistency about ignoring your own obstacles,such as feeling dead bored ? Why bored in the first place ? Or maybe it is fear ? Why being so scared ? Could it be the self doubt ? Hesitating in the sake of perfection really does a lot of damage by making us all cornered in that tiny defensive box of ours,it might be a safe place,but it’s not,because it is only self abandonement in its most delicate way…safety and security are only for pussies…so I better look forward and act…Thoughts are complicated,but actions should be simple…

Surrender to the fact that "Life isn't fair"


Life isn't fair. it's a bummer, but it's absolutely true. Ironically, recognizing this sobering fact can be liberating insight.

one of the mistakes many of us make is that we feel sorry for ourselves, or for others, thinking that life should be fair, or that someday it will be. It's not and it won't. when we make this mistake we tend to spend a lot of time wallowing and/or complaining about what's wrong with life. "It's not fair," we complain, not realizing that, perhaps, it was never intended to be.

One of the nice things about surrendering to the fact that life isn't fair is that to keep us from feeling sorry for ourselves by encouraging us to do the very best we can with what we have. We know it's not "life's job" to make everything perfect, it's our own challenge. Surrendering to this fact also keeps us from feeling sorry for others because we are reminded that every one is dealt a different hand, and everyone has unique strengths  and challenges.

The fact that life isn't fair doesn't mean we shouldn't do everything in our power to improve our own lives or the world as a whole. To the contrary, it suggests that we should. When we don't recognize or admit that life isn't fair, we tend to feel pity for others and for ourselves. Pity of course, is a self-defeating emotion that does nothing for anyone, except to make everyone feel worse than they already do.

When we do does recognize that life isn't fair, however, we feel compassion for others and ourselves. And compassion is a heartfelt emotions that delivers loving kindness to everyone it touches. The next time you find yourself thinking about the injustice of the world, try reminding yourself of this very basic fact. you maybe surprise that it can nudge you out of self-pity and into helpful action.

Goodbyes


I’ve had to say goodbye more times than I would’ve liked. But, everyone can say that. And no matter how many times we do it, even when it’s for the greater good it still stinks. And though we’ll never forget what we’ve given up, we owe to ourselves to keep moving forward. What we can’t do is living our lives always afraid for the next goodbye. Because, chances are they’re not going to stop. The trick is to recognize when a goodbye can be a good thing; when it’s a chance to start again.

Reality and Illusion



When you were born into this life, you probably learned that what you see in front of you is “reality.” But were you told that this is only partly true because reality is all about perception?
You and I could be looking at the same thing, person or situation, but it doesn’t mean that we will perceive or interpret it the same way. How we perceive something or someone becomes our “reality” – the factor that either motivates or discourages us. And the interpretation of reality that we choose to believe will inevitably affect the quality of the life we live.
What if life could be even more rewarding if only you made a slight shift in the way that you think? Would you make this shift? Would you be open enough to adjust your perception of life?

What if what you see is not “reality,” but is only a vision that presents a challenge so that you are reminded to make the best decision you can, given the circumstances? What if what you see is an illusion, and what you choose is the ultimate reality? How would you live life then?

Would you spend time complaining and dwelling on the very displeasing thing that is happening before your eyes? Or would you see it as an opportunity to choose something that feels better to you?

Additional for Ayu

Every girl has this one guy she goes back again and again, heartbreak after heartbreak … no one understand it and she doesn't even know why she can't let him go.




Friends with Benefits


Friends with benefits, we all have one (or maybe two), such a popular phrase among adults even teenagers these days. Do not misunderstand it though; being friends with someone should have its benefits. However, those I speak of are a bit different.
What I’m talking about here is two friends or at least acquaintances, who agree to have a physical relationship or to fool around, but they are not actually “dating”. There are no emotional strings attached or complications that would usually come along to a romantic relationship.
No anniversaries or other occasion to remember, but it is merely, just willingness to experiment with your sexuality whenever and with whoever you want.
It seems perfect for exes who want to hold on to something that is already over or for those who fear commitment, right?

Some singles believe that if they casually have sex with their friend, the are possibilities that they might fall in love or at least start up a relationship. This is false. If you want to date someone you once think of him or her as a friend, it is fine. But by jumping in the sack when you are both lonely, you’re are admitting your friend isn’t really good enough for you. The only reason you’re with him or her is to get out of boredom, loneliness, or laziness.

The way I see it ;
“ The term "Friends with Benefits" is just another way of saying, I just want to use you for Sex. No Relationship. “


For others, they see the whole thing as harmless. To be fair, I guess it is not all gloom and doom. It is true that there is a slight chance you realize that you actually have feelings for the other person, and sometimes they might realize it too, but hopefully at the same time. Then and only then it will work out. It is rare but possible.

So if you are thinking of entering a “friends with benefits” relationship, remember this: it essentially has no foundation and is based on lust, so it’s not a great start to have a healthy normal relationship. It involves great risks. Feelings change as a relationship changes, so it is always possible to lose a good friendship.

If you are willing to use people and know that you are being used as well, then “friends with benefits” will have a better chance of working. If it is abused, it can be dangerous to your physical, social, and mental health with sometimes irreversible consequences.
On the other hand, a genuine long-term relationship can steam from what it’s started out to be “friends with benefits”, so it isn’t a complete waste. Either way, weigh your pros and cons before charging into a relationship. And it will be more loving and last longer.

It is not as easy as it sounds. It can be pretty difficult to separate the feelings of intimacy to just plain, straightforward friendship with the opposite gender. First of all, to consider having a physical relationship with someone, there must be some initial attraction. Second, there is some sort of emotional connection that already exists. With these two combinations, there is a connection to develop deeper feelings. Chances are the friendship will fade, and the benefits will not last long after that.

And it's all a small stuff



Whenever we are dealing with bad news, a difficult person, or a disappointment of some kind, we often get in certain habits, ways of reacting to life – particularly adversity that don’t serve us well. we overreact, blow things out of proportion, hold on to tightly, and focus on the negative aspect of life. When we are immobilized by little thing, irritated, annoyed and easily bothered – our (over) reactions not only make us frustrated but actually get in the way on getting what we want.
We lose sight of the bigger picture, focus on the negative, and annoy other people who might otherwise help us. In short, We often feel like live our lives as if they were one great big emergency! We often rushed around looking busy, trying to solve problems, but in reality, We often compounding them. Because everything seems like such a big deal, We ended up spending our lives dealing with one drama after another.

After a while, we begin to believe that everything really is a big deal. we fail to recognize that the way we relate to our problems has a lot to do with how quickly and efficiently we solve them. As for me I hope I will soon discover, when I will learn the habit to responding to life with more ease, problems that seem “insurmountable” will be soon more manageable. And even the “biggies”, things that are truly stressful, won’t throw me off track as much as they once did.

Is there another way to relate to life? Perhaps a softer more graceful path that could makes life seems easier and the people in it more compatible? The “other way” of living involves replacing old habits or “reaction” with new habits of perspective. The new habits that could enable us to have richer, more satisfying lives.


Early Summer in Tyrol


a simple trip to the mountain could be all it take to clear our heads and open our hearts and write a new ending to an old story.

Sometimes it is better to be clueless about what is happening around you, 
than to know every bit of information that will silently kill you.

Paranoid




Have you ever been in a situation where you are supposed to have a fully, doubtless trust in certain someone but somehow – somewhere deep inside you, you do have some doubts? You just feel like that “someone” hides something from you or not telling you the whole truth/story?
You try to ignore, forcing to keep move forward with your eyes closed and ears covered with your both hand, telling yourself that everything is fine.

Because what you believe is that; as long as you don’t say it out loud, those doubts isn’t there. It’s like lying to yourself, more or else. Or perhaps you just want to believe what you want to believe even when you doubted that for whatever reason that certain person always tells you the truth.
Somehow there will always be doubts in some conversation or situation. And since all you do is ignoring them (maybe because you’re too tired ti argue), it unconsciously became your habit (bad habit indeed). And when you are in this point, trust me … there is no one else to blame but yourself. No one ever forced you to swallow those doubts inside you.

But maybe you were wrong; maybe that certain someone did tells you nothing but the truth and in my case maybe I’m just being paranoid about being lied to. But again … you never know.

And there is no way you can tell and share this kind of situation to your closest friend/ best friend because they’re just going to give you a confirmation about the truth, something you don’t want to face, the truth you just can’t handle (may be not now, because you’re enjoying the ride of a beautiful lies)
And you feels like a ticking bomb that ready to blow out at any time. But until then …..


To Know You Is To Love You


How do you show someone you love them?  Do you buy them expensive gifts?  Spend quality time together?  Make personal sacrifices just to see them smile?  Dedicate a song to them?  Write a love letter or note of encouragement?  Become their cheerleader?  Those are wonderful things to do but my question goes deeper then those types of activities, even beyond your romantic partner.  Think about your parents, your children, your best friend, your sister, or your brother… anyone you love.  How do you really show them that you love them?  Reverse the question if you like – how do you really know if someone loves you?


Addiction

"love its like a drug
but its also like a poison
swirling through veins
widening pupils
and fastening heartbeats
tasting sweet
a kiss
turning bitter
the drug
pulling you further into
addiction"