Friends with Benefits


Friends with benefits, we all have one (or maybe two), such a popular phrase among adults even teenagers these days. Do not misunderstand it though; being friends with someone should have its benefits. However, those I speak of are a bit different.
What I’m talking about here is two friends or at least acquaintances, who agree to have a physical relationship or to fool around, but they are not actually “dating”. There are no emotional strings attached or complications that would usually come along to a romantic relationship.
No anniversaries or other occasion to remember, but it is merely, just willingness to experiment with your sexuality whenever and with whoever you want.
It seems perfect for exes who want to hold on to something that is already over or for those who fear commitment, right?

Some singles believe that if they casually have sex with their friend, the are possibilities that they might fall in love or at least start up a relationship. This is false. If you want to date someone you once think of him or her as a friend, it is fine. But by jumping in the sack when you are both lonely, you’re are admitting your friend isn’t really good enough for you. The only reason you’re with him or her is to get out of boredom, loneliness, or laziness.

The way I see it ;
“ The term "Friends with Benefits" is just another way of saying, I just want to use you for Sex. No Relationship. “


For others, they see the whole thing as harmless. To be fair, I guess it is not all gloom and doom. It is true that there is a slight chance you realize that you actually have feelings for the other person, and sometimes they might realize it too, but hopefully at the same time. Then and only then it will work out. It is rare but possible.

So if you are thinking of entering a “friends with benefits” relationship, remember this: it essentially has no foundation and is based on lust, so it’s not a great start to have a healthy normal relationship. It involves great risks. Feelings change as a relationship changes, so it is always possible to lose a good friendship.

If you are willing to use people and know that you are being used as well, then “friends with benefits” will have a better chance of working. If it is abused, it can be dangerous to your physical, social, and mental health with sometimes irreversible consequences.
On the other hand, a genuine long-term relationship can steam from what it’s started out to be “friends with benefits”, so it isn’t a complete waste. Either way, weigh your pros and cons before charging into a relationship. And it will be more loving and last longer.

It is not as easy as it sounds. It can be pretty difficult to separate the feelings of intimacy to just plain, straightforward friendship with the opposite gender. First of all, to consider having a physical relationship with someone, there must be some initial attraction. Second, there is some sort of emotional connection that already exists. With these two combinations, there is a connection to develop deeper feelings. Chances are the friendship will fade, and the benefits will not last long after that.